I'm done.

[gryphonsegg]

Fine. Okay. I'm sex-negative. I'll cop to that. If "sex-negative" is going to be the common descriptor for anyone who has noticed that our species has far too long a history of people using sex to hurt other people for any and all sexuality to be an undiluted good, I'll wear that label proudly. If the alternative is cheering for every male author who writes a story in which a woman initiates sex, even if she appears to do so reluctantly and with little expectation of enjoyment, even if she's an amnesiac escaped slave, or even if she aggressively persists after the person she's trying to have sex with pushes her away, then I'll be sex-negative til the day I die. I'm not slut-shaming. I'm sexist-writer/artist-shaming.

Comments

[holyschist]

*joins you in sex-negativity*

[gryphonsegg]

There really needs to be a short, easy-to-remember-and-say-and-type term for guys who are skeevy about sexual matters-- one that is separate from legal terminology so that it's not easy for defensive dudes to conflate "pointing out things that are offensive/inappropriate/crossing the line of what should be socially acceptable" with "saying that someone should be jailed as a sex offender." Also, this term should apply specifically to objectification/offensiveness/exploitation from a position of power so that it's not easily conflated with slut-shaming harassed and exploited women or fictional characters who are being portrayed in exploitative ways and the RL girls and women who identify with them in spite of this.