I need to save Flavia's post

. . . so I can link to the next time I feel pressed to explain why I'm a lot more cautious about het, especially explicit het, than I am about equally explicit slash or femslash. Well, there are several reasons for that, but this is a big one that I've had trouble articulating and/or simply been reluctant/embarrassed to articulate in the past. Basically, Flavia Dzodan in this post points out that current Western social norms construct heterosexual sex as something that women do for men and men do for themselves. Note: linked post and comments contain explicit verbal discussion of sex; no pics.

( cut for connecting that discussion to my own nerdy concerns )