Mind control problems

As a result of several different discussions I've been reading, I'm thinking about how mind control/brainwashing/compulsion plot devices are used in fiction, whether there are gender differences in how writers use said plot devices, and how common (or not) it is for the text or the creator(s) of the text to acknowledge that characters who use these devices for sexual purposes are doing something seriously wrong. It seems to be a disturbingly common occurrence for people involved with genre media to have a character use phlebotinum as a date rape drug and then talk about it as if they have no clue that what they're depicting is rape. I can think of examples of the alternative phenomenon, where the wrongness is acknowledged, and so far it seems that women writers are somewhat more likely to acknowledge it than men are. On the other hand, the example texts that have large fandoms certainly have enough women fans who go right along with the "LOL, mind control sex isn't really rape-rape" mindset, so I might just be getting a skewed sample because so many of the example texts that don't acknowledge it are from Western television and comics, where women don't make up as large a proportion of the writers as they do in some of the other media, such as fantasy novels. So it might be more of a "TV vs. books" thing than a "men vs. women" thing.

Would anyone be interested in a discussion about these patterns over multiple sources? I'm not thinking of works that are explicitly kink fic, erotica, or otherwise clearly categorized as written chiefly for sexual thrills so much as I'm thinking of works that are mainly adventure or drama or idea-centered and somebody just decided that having brain wipes, mind control spells, love potions, neuro hacking, or something like that would make things more interesting. Who went there and treated it seriously? Who went there and didn't?